Topix Questions 39: What Was Your Favorite Job? Why? & 40: How Did You Meet Your Significant Other?

Question 39/424:  What was your favorite job, and why?

 I’m one of the very fortunate few to currently be working at my favorite job.  To be fair, I haven’t had very many different jobs.  When I was about ten or twelve years old, my parents became self-employed meaning that I did help in both my dad’s welding and manufacturing business as well as my mom’s rental and house rehabilitation businesses.  I did anything from the actual physical labor to helping my mom sort through receipts and itemize out what charges were for what for tax purposes.  I really enjoyed the office side of things quite a bit.  I liked looking through the receipts and noting what they were used for and keeping track of which materials went to which job and how to bill out.

 One summer when I was sixteen, I was hired by one of my mom’s tenants to watch and drive her twelve-year-old son to and from school and to do some activities. I was never interested in babysitting and didn’t even like little kids that much so if I hadn’t been in need of the money, I don’t know that I would’ve taken the job.  Thankfully, he wasn’t exactly a kid, the mom just needed someone to be home to make sure that the twelve-year-old and the fourteen-year-old didn’t kill each other while she was working.  So, as far as babysitting gigs go it was pretty easy, and I actually have a lot of memories from that summer from bike rides, to hunting for pond animals, to meeting a guy that I would eventually try to date, so that was a pretty eventful summer.

 I graduated high school when I was seventeen and I applied to every place that would take an application from on the main street of the two nearest towns to me.  I got called back by two different Rite Aid Pharmacies and Taco Bell.  Unfortunately, when Rite Aid realized I was only seventeen (despite this information being on my resume and my application) they apologized for not actually being able to hire me.  When I went in for my interview at Taco Bell, the manager was shocked at my age because I did put my previous experience working for my parents on my resume.  She very quickly told me to relax and that she had already decided to hire me but had to go through the formal interview process first.  I only worked that job for about nine months before I was offered another position at the job where I still am.

 Sometimes it’s wild to think that I started working at a bankruptcy law office at seventeen.  I guess in reality being a receptionist at that age isn’t the most absurd thing in the world, but imagining training a seventeen-year-old to do my job now seems ridiculous.  Be that as it may, I started working at the bankruptcy office at seventeen and I am now thirty-one.  The job has certainly changed over the years – the amount of clients we see, the number of employees working here (I officially got help after working alone for nine years), as well as the specific job duties have all changed over the last thirteen years.  I can’t really explain why I like my job so much.  I know having a phenomenal boss is a huge part of it.  Having a boss who respects me and understands that sometimes life just happens and I might have to miss random days or come in late and knowing that he’ll never holds that against me as long as the work is done is a huge relief.  Also, just like when I was a kid helping out my parents, I just like office work.  I like the computer aspect of it as well as the paperwork and organizational aspect of it.  I was gifted a filing cabinet when I was sixteen if that gives you any insight into my personality. I don’t always love the obligation of being on the phone with clients, but as far as the data entry and the management of the cases, I can do that all day long.  Honestly, when I have long weekends or try to take time off I usually feel so bored and like I’d rather be at work getting things done.  In a lot of ways my job almost feels like my hobby.  I guess that could be considered a negative thing or an unhealthy work/life balance, but I just really enjoy it.  Of course there’s complicated cases and sometimes the court changes the rules on things and that can be frustrating – nothing is perfect – but I like working alongside my boss and learning how to navigate those new things together and growing.  I’m considering going back to school and even law school so that I can continue to do this job forever, and just get paid a little bit more for doing it.  Truly, my current job is the perfect fit and I hope I’m fortunate to stay here as long as I want to and never find myself scrambling for something new and hoping it fits as well as this does.  I am very lucky.

 

 

 Question 40/424:  How did you meet your spouse or significant other?

 I met my current significant other through a friend of a friend.  Well, to be specific, my friend, Aries, was dating a new guy, Virgo (not to be confused with any ex of mine who was also a Virgo).  Aries wanted myself and our mutual long-term friend, Cancer, to meet Virgo and his very good and long-term friend, Aquarius.  We planned to have dinner and I would bring board games, as I always do, and the five of us would just hang out and get to know one another.

 Going into the meeting, Aries kept talking about how she though Aquarius and I would hit it off and get along really well.  It seemed strange that she was selling Aquarius so much because at the time I was in a (albeit very toxic) relationship and was not necessarily looking to meet anyone other than as a friend.  Regardless, Aries spoke very highly of Aquarius and couldn’t wait for all of us to meet.

 So we got together to have dinner and I pulled out a game called Quickwits which is essentially a word matching/word association game.  If you and another player match symbols or categories, then one of you has to shout out an example of that symbol or category.  It’s a super simple game, and good for groups so I thought it would go well.  Not very long into the game, Aries’ new boyfriend, Virgo, was clearly not having a good time and not wanting to play any longer.  Aquarius tried to help him figure out the rules but Virgo was simply not having it.  In that moment, Cancer and I both decided that we much preferred the attitude of Aquarius to the attitude of Virgo based on this encounter.  So instead of playing games, the five of us just started talking. 

 I found out that Aquarius and I actually did have quite a bit in common, one of which being Law and Order:  Special Victims Unit being one of our favorite shows.  After we all left that gathering, I went ahead and sent a friend request to both Virgo and Aquarius.  Aquarius and I started messaging each other about all sorts of things.  I ended up sharing a discount code with him for Hulu so that he could watch Law and Order:  SVU and get caught up.  So while he was rewatching the old seasons, he and I would message back and forth and really enjoyed talking with each other.

 However, I was still in a relationship, and I knew Aries had no tolerance for cheating so I made sure to let her and Virgo both know that I was not trying to lead Aquarius on and that if they felt it necessary they could also tell Aquarius that I was not looking to meet anyone in a romantic or intimate way.  Despite this, Aquarius and I kept talking and I would now and then mention some toxic behavior that my then boyfriend, Leo, would exhibit and Aquarius very much encouraged me to leave him.  After a few months, I finally found the perfect opportunity to leave and I did.  I had a friend help me drive all of this belongings down to his mom’s house and asked for my key back and left him behind.  It was an arduous process, but was made easier by my ability to speak open and honestly about everything that was going on with Aquarius.

 Once I was single, we started seeing each other in person more often.  I would come to his apartment, he would come to mine, and I would attend some of his live shows.  We were becoming fast friends and more.  Virgo and Aries, who had introduced us, were not necessarily over the moon about our growing relationship.  Aquarius and I dated more-or-less secretly for a few months before his housing situation became very stressful and he was needing to move.  I hesitated on asking him to move in, partially because I had such a hard time getting the last one out and also because I have a bad habit of moving boyfriend’s in too quickly and regretting it later.  But, I really felt for Aquarius and his situation and so we had a big conversation about whether or not it would be a good idea and what ground rules would exist.  After mulling it over for a few days, Aquarius decided to move in, and we figured out when that would happen, and at that point we became Facebook Official.  So as of September 10, 2019 Aquarius and I have been in a serious relationship and living with each other after being introduced by our two friends.  Unfortunately, we don’t really have much of a friendship with either Virgo or Aries at this point, aside from remaining Facebook friends.  It’s interesting how life turns out sometimes.


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